Ways to grow change

"You have to ask yourself", what is the root? before I start, if you are reading my blog for the first time and you've not read the rest it would be really great if you do. because we've made a little journey which you would love to be in but if you don't want to it's ok I'll just summarize.

"walking the distance"

I've been writing about "self development" by developing the mind. but first before climbing a tree you must first start from the bottom and that's is where we are starting from. if a tree is not well developed it's means is not getting enough nutrients and water and that is done by the root so the Same with people. if you have a problem you have to start from the root.

Sometimes we try to change, when we see that we have a problem. but, we see ourselves turning in circles like we are in a loop. so now we are going to try to break the loop. but, before we keep going you must have faith in yourself. they're are steps you must take when trying to improve we have only talked about two and I have empathize about them in previous posts.

"bad seeds don't breed trees"

The first step: the first step in solving anything is identifying the problem, knowing yourself Knowing who you are. that's not an hard step because we all know that having a problem is normal. don't hate yourself about it, we are all humans we are bound to have flaws. we all have bagages is how you handle it that matters.

The Second step: The second step is acceptance. knowing yourself isn't an issue the real issue is accepting you have a problem. it is not really easy. there was a time when I was in school I had an issue with my friend because he called me a "procastinator". it was the truth, I knew it, but accepting it was really hard for me. when I finnaly accepted that i had a problem, I found out how badly it had affected me in multiple aspect of my life. But nobody is beyond repair so I found a way to change. A way to stop "procastinating". it might look like a small issue but trust me they all pack a lot of damages. did you know? that 80% of failure comes from procastination. I know!!, that's a lot And i don't know what the other 20% are.

Whatever your problems are you may think it's ok but trust me they all pack a punch.

By now I know you would have identified yours.

Don't let your problem taunt you don't let it make you "hate yourself"

After accepting you have a problem, the next step is to find the root to fully understand the problem. there is a reason for everything and if you have not found the reason why you do what you do it's means you don't understand it well enough. there is always a reason why we do the things we do even if we are not proud of it them.

So now we must find the root of the problem the reason why we do it in the first place. "You gat to ask yourself "what is the root of my problem?

Why do I lie?, cheat, internalize, lack empathy, gossip, fornicate, procastinate, blame others,masturbate, smoke,drink so much more. most of the examples I listed don't become a problem unless you let it be. you might just do it once in a while but when it's starts interfering with your life, family, relationship,jobs thats when it gat to go so you have to find the root. it might be that one friend that keeps calling you and giving you reason why it's ok to do it or maybe anger, looliness, family issues, peer influence, no matter what it is you have to find it and cut it off. You have to discover the damage root and cut it off it may be hard but you have to move on even if it means cutting of your most precious friends.

Discovering the root and cutting it off may not be easy but, nothing good ever comes easy. "good luck discovering your root" I'll always be here for you, if you want to talk more about it. contact me through my email: "nurudeeny17@gmail.com" specially for those who read this post.